People with a narcissistic personality disorder are not in

vain toxic – their way to build relationships is based on constant manipulation and over time changes the biochemistry of our brain. Here are some tips that will help to free themselves.

The feeling of love that we experience at the very beginning of a relationship with a narcissistic person is experienced much more than in a healthy relationship. The reason is that the daffodil (man or woman) from almost the first days floods us with confessions of love, does not get tired of admiring, seeking advice, assuring that we are perfection itself, he or she met the best person in his life and are ready for us for us inAll.

This is called “bombarding love”. Then the tactics are changing – the daffodil seems to retreat a little, his love confessions become less often, calmer, and finally the violent ocean turns into a meager brook. This is a kind of manipulation, control and psychological processing – with its help, the Narcissus keeps us in its power.

There is no doubt that we loved. The only problem is that daffodils cannot love us in response

In communication with them, it is better to rely on your inner flair, and not on the power of your feelings. As a rule, we are so tight in a trap of feelings that we lose the ability to hear disturbing calls and notice the red flags, which are full of road in toxic relationships. Narcissus cannot “hold their face” for a long time – very soon their facade is cracking. But they are a master of their craft and, if you are inexperienced, can easily plant you on a hook.

1. Arm with knowledge

The most important and the first thing to do to get out of the trap is to find out as much as possible about what a narcissistic personality disorder is, how the daffodils, their typical behavior and techniques are arranged.

You need to arm yourself with knowledge. Repeat and repeat the passed. Until you study them properly, you can’t free yourself from their toxic hook – daffodils make us feel related obligations, playing on our sense of duty, conscientiousness.

To feel a pity for the daffodil when he or she caught you trap, it is pointless – they just use your feelings against you. It is necessary to discard false pity to clearly see what you are dealing with.

2. Trust your intuition

Observe yourself – learn to separate feelings and deep inner flair, intuition. Start trusting your intuition, not feelings. Communication with the daffodil weakens physical, mental and emotional health, because we are in a ward to understand a person whose behavior contradicts the words.

Instead of listening to what they say, observe how they do. Words are lying, deeds open the truth. We really recognize people through their behavior. Words – just abuse of your trust.

You feel sick and exhausted, because your psyche and body tell you that you are in great danger, but in appearance everything seems to be fine (because it or it tells you so). Once again – trust the inner instinct. Become a cold -blooded researcher. Silently watch what is happening.

3. Do not put yourself in their place

Return back to your place where you should be. This is a matter of awareness. Mark to yourself how hard it is to do it – these are the consequences of narcissistic processing.

Do not try to guess what they have on their minds, imagine their further steps. Putting yourself in their place means trying to understand their motives, justify, find a reasonable explanation of their behavior and, as a result, get bogged down again in the poisonous swamp of their verbal manipulations.

When you catch yourself on the fact that you are trying to “climb the Narcissus in the head”, try to distract yourself with all your might

You can use your favorite mantra or prayer when the mind climbs into the poisonous wilds. This is difficult and requires great power of the spirit – not to succumb to the psychological processing that they brought down on you to be sure that they captured all the space inside your head.

4. Ignore messages

For the daffodil, the information does not carry any semantic load, its only goal is to suck you into the manipulation swamp. The task is not to understand, believe or not believe the words of the Narcissus. And in, to break out of the closed circle, in which you only think about what is connected with the daffodil.

Do not listen and do not attach any value to the content of the speeches that Narcissus pronounces. This is their way to take out your brain to draw into your world and keep where you always find yourself in the role of bad and guilty. They will continue to shift your boundaries and tear off the fuses notifying about approaching the borders in order to constantly keep you in suspense, remove from balance, and violate calm.

Trying to find common sense in the speeches of the narcissus means to force your brain to work in stressful mode, gradually it drives crazy. Know-no matter what they say, the daffodils achieve any benefit for themselves, no matter how logical or perfectly their words. Everything is only about them and for them, and the only desire of the daffodil – so that you, too, be only about them and for them. They will do and say anything, just to keep you in West in their small invented world. Once again: observe what they do (and do not say).